tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post7734445684611190775..comments2023-04-01T17:33:15.547-07:00Comments on MaMammalia: Respectful Parenting As a Way of LifeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-30411481194821266202012-02-15T20:57:54.369-08:002012-02-15T20:57:54.369-08:00Kerry, yes, it is tough. I have to put a lot of ef...Kerry, yes, it is tough. I have to put a lot of effort into finding and building my local tribe, especially since I only moved here shortly before I became pregnant. But I am eternally grateful for the online community!!Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16330964289844889151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-62252234281967468872012-02-15T20:55:00.020-08:002012-02-15T20:55:00.020-08:00Thank you, Sheila, for sharing your story. It'...Thank you, Sheila, for sharing your story. It's a prime example of what I was talking about in this post. Sometimes the abusive cycle is broken abruptly, but I think more often it happens slowly and incrementally. You are fortunate in being able to see that...and your child will undoubtedly reap the rewards of your insight and strength.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16330964289844889151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-43941839757059916272012-02-15T13:48:54.501-08:002012-02-15T13:48:54.501-08:00Dionna, yes I actually witnessed this dragging eve...Dionna, yes I actually witnessed this dragging event at my nearest playground. Horrifying. Then I saw the same kids at the park with their grandmother(equally horrifying), and I began to wonder what struggles that family must face. I really do think that if more parents had more support, information and resources, we wouldn't see this stuff. That's why I blog about it, too!Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16330964289844889151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-88261526855753635912012-02-15T13:43:58.253-08:002012-02-15T13:43:58.253-08:00Dee, your point was well made, thanks for commenti...Dee, your point was well made, thanks for commenting! Lack of respect also makes me sad, but I've found it's easier to deal with if I just try harder to show respect to others.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16330964289844889151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-31958061108756011332012-02-14T20:23:00.321-08:002012-02-14T20:23:00.321-08:00Wonderful post! I love your thoughts about "l...Wonderful post! I love your thoughts about "looking at parents as individuals with their own struggles to overcome." I've often been amazed at the childhood difficulties parents have come through to do a much better job with their own children. And I love your statement "I've come to accept that the only way we can get better as parents is by supporting each other and exchanging information, with open minds and open hearts." I totally agree! Deb @ LivingMontessoriNow.comDeb Chitwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16665549481411417908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-7075792605304987622012-02-14T17:32:33.208-08:002012-02-14T17:32:33.208-08:00"I'm just saying those parents don't ..."I'm just saying those parents don't need my contempt or unsolicited advice. They need my support, my empathy, and access to the same information I have."<br /><br />Amen! Well written! Compassion is inexplicably important in raising ourselves, our children, and sharing information with our fellow parents.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16783353779130502220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-42177176264351057752012-02-14T17:25:01.691-08:002012-02-14T17:25:01.691-08:00Sylvia, very nice post. I think it would be very ...Sylvia, very nice post. I think it would be very hard to be a natural parent without a real-life community of support, always feeling like our approach is so "out there." I'm fortunate that in my city there are a lot of us! It's wonderful to have this online natural parenting community to bring together link-minded mamas!Kerry McDonald, M.Ed.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05970816682727759140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-50493871433148672782012-02-14T13:25:22.831-08:002012-02-14T13:25:22.831-08:00A lovely post, and one that's really in line w...A lovely post, and one that's really in line with my way of thinking in a lor of ways too ~ I tend to keep my ideas to myself (and my blog) too because I've occassionally been made to feel like I'm extremely peculiar for even contemplating things like tandem nursing. <br />And I whole-heartedly agree about modelling respectful behaviour for the sake of your children ~ it was not wanting to be a shouty, bad-tempered mother raising shouty, bad-tempered kids that started me on my journey towards mindfulness. <br />Going to check out your Unconditional Parenting series now, as that's another approach I'm trying to incorporate into my parenting right now :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12598120657360077240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-21779561025611517722012-02-14T12:49:17.900-08:002012-02-14T12:49:17.900-08:00Your point about parents having their own history ...Your point about parents having their own history is so true. My dad was pretty strict. He yelled a lot, and he spanked. He wasn't very snuggly or connected. But when I discovered that his own father was physically abusive and completely detached, I understood a lot more. He never made a mark on us, and he made an effort to play with us even though he had no background at all in what good fatherhood looked like. He wasn't the perfect dad, but what he gave us, through a lot of effort on his part, was MUCH better than what he received. So he broke the cycle of abuse and freed me to parent my own child more gently still. I can't help but be thankful for that!Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10853868724554947854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-18152053742936214922012-02-14T06:23:06.408-08:002012-02-14T06:23:06.408-08:00"Maybe the father dragging his kid by the arm..."Maybe the father dragging his kid by the arm out of the park is exercising considerable restraint compared to the beatings he once received." Wow - what a powerful visual. I agree that parents are doing the best they can with the tools they have, which is why I'm so passionate about helping parents learn new tools. Great post!!Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-84586809116242666822012-02-14T01:11:10.654-08:002012-02-14T01:11:10.654-08:00Thanks for sharing this blog.
This is exactly how...Thanks for sharing this blog. <br />This is exactly how I feel about parenting, about 'living in this world'. The only difference is that you have put it into words, which is difficult for me to do. <br /><br />I find it extremely frustrating when people tend to not respect my or anyone else's opinion. It makes me really sad. I wish for everyone to respect eachother more so we can have a more peaceful world. I always try my hardest to be respectful, eventhough I know there is a struggle to overcome in a particular situation. <br /><br />I hope the above makes any sense. If not, sorry for my poor English. It's not my mothertongue. Dutch is, actually. :)<br /><br />Have a nice day!d eehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18168425856328087899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-83567160520743174522012-02-14T00:47:05.440-08:002012-02-14T00:47:05.440-08:00The more I talk with parents who are doing somethi...The more I talk with parents who are doing something I disagree with, the more I realize that they're good people, too, with good intentions. It's so true that we don't know from a glance what the motivations and backgrounds are of the people we're observing. Thanks for sharing this!Lauren Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500733577920040395noreply@blogger.com