tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post5152066592432217406..comments2023-04-01T17:33:15.547-07:00Comments on MaMammalia: When Gratitude is Better Than PraiseUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-59801497908158315532011-10-24T14:53:23.868-07:002011-10-24T14:53:23.868-07:00@Granola Girl, yes I agree, it seems that mindless...@Granola Girl, yes I agree, it seems that mindless chatter is pretty common, especially for pleansantries. We are all guilty of it, at least in certain contexts. That's why mindful parenting is such a challenge...it requires focus, concentration, and being fully aware of what comes out of our mouths. I know I don't get it right all the time, but I'm working on it!<br /><br />I like how you modify "good job" with something specific. You're aware of what you're praising, and I'm guessing your child is too. I'll give that a try!MaMammaliahttp://mamammalia.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5352349300184483080.post-76167775571089153802011-10-23T14:39:11.698-07:002011-10-23T14:39:11.698-07:00Unfortunately, I don't think many people think...Unfortunately, I don't think many people think about what they are saying to most people - adults or children. Very often I find adults saying things that are rather vapid and empty when they mean quite well. It is that they haven't really thought at all about what they are trying to convey. <br /><br />"Good Job" is just blurted out. So are, "Thank You", "Your Welcome", "I'm Sorry" and "I love you." Unfortunately, our culture seems to have lost the meaning of so many phrases. I'm glad you are willing to consider what you are saying and trying to actually communicate yourself.<br /><br />If I use the phrase good job with my son, I normally try to follow it up with whatever is being approved of. "Good Job! I really like how you used your words instead of freaking out." or "Good Job, you finished your work thoroughly instead of rushing through. Thank You, I really appreciate it." That kind of thing. I don't know if it is working, but we seem to have pretty good report so far :)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04249655831923837855noreply@blogger.com